A step-by-step action plan based on your state's laws, the platform involved, and your specific situation — in under 2 minutes.
I found out my child is involved in a sexting situation
My image was shared or I'm being threatened with one
I sent or forwarded an image I shouldn't have
A friend, student, or family member confided in me
State laws vary. This helps us show relevant state-specific information.
Based on your answers. This is general educational information, not legal advice.
Step 1: TAKE IT DOWN Act (federal law, signed May 2025). Platforms are legally required to remove explicit images of minors within 48 hours of a valid request.
Select your state above to see specific laws.
Before you say anything, take a breath. Your reaction in the first 5 minutes shapes whether your child comes to you or hides from you in the future.
Say this first:
Do not say:
Watch for these warning signs in the next 72 hours:
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Whatever happened — whether you sent something voluntarily, were coerced, or had something taken — the person who shared or threatened to share your image is responsible for this, not you.
Answer two questions and we'll give you a clear plan.
Clear steps for right now. You are not alone in this.
This situation is not your fault and it is not something you have to solve alone. Talking to a trusted adult — a parent, school counselor, or other adult you trust — will help you get through this faster and more safely.
If you are not ready to tell someone you know:
If you are having thoughts of hurting yourself: Call or text 988 right now. What you are feeling is understandable and temporary. Help is real.
"This is one of the hardest things a person can go through. The fact that you looked for help means you are stronger than this situation."
The 30-Day Family Response Kit is the complete step-by-step guide for families — platform reporting, school meetings, emotional safety, attorney prep, and a structured 30-day recovery timeline.
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Get My Recovery Plan →The fact that you're looking for what to do right means you understand this was a mistake. There are concrete steps that can limit the damage. Answer two questions.
Honest steps to minimize harm and take responsibility.
If the person whose image was shared wants to remove it, point them to:
If they want to report what you did, that is their right and their choice.
Whether you are a teen or an adult, talking to someone you trust — a parent, counselor, or attorney — will help you navigate what comes next. The earlier you involve someone, the more options you have.
If you are a minor: telling a parent now, even though it is scary, is almost always better than them finding out another way.
"Coming here shows you understand this was wrong. What you do next is what defines you — not the mistake itself."
The 30-Day Family Response Kit is the complete step-by-step guide for families — platform reporting, school meetings, emotional safety, attorney prep, and a structured 30-day recovery timeline.
Get My Recovery Plan →The 30-Day Family Response Kit covers platform reporting, school meetings, attorney prep, and a structured recovery timeline — for families dealing with exactly this situation.
Get My Recovery Plan →Whether it's a friend, a student, or a family member — the fact that they came to you means something. Here's how to help without making things worse.
What to say, what to do, and what not to do.
Say this first: "I'm really glad you told me. This is not your fault. I want to help you figure out what to do next — together."
Do not say: "Why did you send that?" / "What were you thinking?" / "I have to tell your parents right now." Saying these things may cause them to shut down or regret telling you.
Do not promise to keep it secret if a minor is in danger. You can say: "I care about you too much to keep something secret that could hurt you. But I'll be with you through whatever comes next."
Your job is not to fix the situation — it's to connect the person to people who can. The most helpful thing you can do is:
Being the person someone confides in about something this serious can be overwhelming. It is okay to feel that. Talk to a trusted adult in your own life — a parent, counselor, or teacher — about how you are feeling, even if you keep the details of your friend's situation private.
If you or the person you're helping is in crisis: Call or text 988 · Text HOME to 741741
"They chose you to tell. That is trust. And you showing up for them — even imperfectly — is one of the most important things a person can do."
The 30-Day Family Response Kit is the complete step-by-step guide for families — platform reporting, school meetings, emotional safety, attorney prep, and a structured 30-day recovery timeline.
Get My Recovery Plan →The 30-Day Family Response Kit is the complete guide for families — platform reporting, school meetings, emotional safety, attorney prep, and a structured recovery timeline.
Get My Recovery Plan →Forwarding or saving an intimate image of a minor — even to help — can expose you to serious legal liability in most states. Document everything else instead.
The TAKE IT DOWN Act (signed May 2025) requires platforms to remove intimate images of minors within 48 hours of a valid request. You can use this now, for free.
If your child is being threatened or blackmailed: do not pay. Payment almost always leads to more demands. NCMEC and law enforcement handle these cases every day.
Kids who fear punishment more than the harm itself hide the problem until it gets worse. Staying calm and non-judgmental in the first 5 minutes matters more than anything you say.
A sexting incident occurs when intimate or sexually explicit images, videos, or messages are shared between individuals electronically — most often through smartphones, social media platforms, or messaging apps. According to research from the Cyberbullying Research Center, approximately 1 in 4 teens has sent or received a sexually explicit image or video, and these incidents are increasingly involving younger adolescents as smartphone access has broadened.
What makes sexting incidents particularly complicated is the wide range of situations they encompass: a photo shared voluntarily between two teens in a relationship, an image shared without consent to a wider group, an adult soliciting images from a minor, or a sextortion scheme where someone threatens to release an image unless paid. Each of these situations requires a different response — which is exactly what this tool is designed to provide.
Sextortion is a form of online blackmail in which someone threatens to share an intimate image of a person — usually a minor — unless certain demands are met. Those demands may be money (gift cards, Venmo, cash, or cryptocurrency), more images, or sexual acts. According to the FBI, sextortion reports involving minors have increased sharply since 2020, with financial sextortion from overseas criminal networks now accounting for a significant proportion of cases.
If your child is being sextorted, the most important things to know are: do not pay, and do not have your child send more images. Both of these actions almost always result in escalating demands, not the end of the threat. Instead, document everything — screenshots of threats, usernames, profile information, and any payment requests — and report immediately to the NCMEC CyberTipline and local law enforcement. The FBI's Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3.gov) also accepts these reports and can help coordinate with law enforcement if the threat is coming from overseas.
The TAKE IT DOWN Act, signed into law in May 2025, is a federal law that requires online platforms to remove intimate images of minors within 48 hours of receiving a valid report. The law applies to major social media platforms, messaging services, and content hosting sites. Critically, you do not need to upload the image to make a report — the NCMEC's Take It Down tool uses a "hashing" process that creates a digital fingerprint of the image without requiring you to share the image itself. This hash can then be used to detect and remove copies of the image across participating platforms simultaneously.
The Take It Down tool is free, anonymous, and available for both minors and their parents or guardians. If you do not have access to the original image, you can still submit a report using the CyberTipline, and NCMEC can coordinate with platforms and law enforcement on your behalf.
State laws vary enormously on how they treat teen sexting. Some states treat any intimate image involving a minor — even if shared voluntarily between two teens of the same age — as child pornography under criminal law. Other states have created specific "teen sexting" laws that treat these situations differently from adult exploitation, often focusing on diversion, education, or restorative justice rather than criminal prosecution. A smaller number of states have no specific law at all and rely on existing obscenity or harassment statutes.
This matters practically because the same incident — a 15-year-old sending a photo to a classmate — can result in a felony charge in one state and a civil citation in another. Use the quiz above to see the specific laws and framework in your state. If law enforcement is already involved or if your child may have forwarded an image belonging to another minor, consulting a licensed attorney in your state before making any written statements is strongly recommended.
For a detailed breakdown of state laws, see our state-by-state sexting law guide. For guidance on how to talk to your child about what happened, see our parent conversation guide.
Law enforcement should be involved immediately if: an adult is involved in any way; your child is being threatened, blackmailed, or physically endangered; money or additional images are being demanded; or the situation involves someone unknown to your child who is likely not a peer. In these situations, do not wait — these are federal crimes in most cases, and law enforcement has tools and jurisdiction that platforms and school administrators do not.
When the incident involves two minors of similar age with no coercion or ongoing threat, whether to involve law enforcement is a more nuanced decision that may depend on your state's law, the severity of the situation, and whether school officials are already involved. Many families in this situation benefit from speaking with an attorney before contacting police, since a report cannot be unsaid. For more on this decision, see the Decision Guide in Chapter 5 of our 30-Day Family Response Kit.
📋 Disclaimer: The information on this page is for general educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or mental health advice. Laws vary significantly by state and change frequently. Always verify current laws with a licensed attorney in your state. If you are in crisis or concerned about your child's safety right now, call or text 988.